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Comment on Feeding Expectations by alicia

alicia — Thu, 13 Jun 2013 04:42:43 +0000

Yes, I too have taken to pre-party eating because of my experiences. Isn’t that terrible?

At Assyrian parties you make 4lbs of meat per person haha.

Comment on Feeding Expectations by ssmurphy

ssmurphy — Thu, 13 Jun 2013 04:38:56 +0000

Haha I love this! Wouldn’t running out of food as an Assyrian host be the worst thing ever?! Aye, ehbeh! I remember I was hosting a holiday dinner with B dog’s family and we decided to do a farmers market ham, but it was only 4 lbs for 8 people (though one vegetarian). It worried me for days, what if we run out of ham? How embarrassing!! Granted we had four other courses but still! Of course they eat like birds (very unlike Assyrians) so it was fine.

Sometimes when we are going to a white people party Brian will ask me if there is food and I’m like ehhh sure. This is a mistake as if there is not enough he will give me that glare look. Now I make sure we eat beforehand. The worst that happens is you have two dinners and that’s basically my norm anyway.

Comment on Tarof is not a French word by Feeding Expectations | spikedpunchbowl

Feeding Expectations | spikedpunchbowl — Thu, 13 Jun 2013 00:29:22 +0000

[…] And I enjoy being fairly certain of what to expect when eating in someone’s home. I hate written about the differences in eating with my French relatives compared to eating with my Assyrian […]

Comment on Why This Anthropologist Loves (and is frustrated by) Design(-ers)* by 808STARTUP: Design School Cheats from Pas de Chocolat | Aloha StartUps

808STARTUP: Design School Cheats from Pas de Chocolat | Aloha StartUps — Mon, 03 Jun 2013 20:37:25 +0000

[…] post on the overall process, while Alicia Dornadic, the mainland member of the team, has written about the design philosophy behind the […]

Comment on Quilting: The Opposite of Instant Gratification by ssmurphy

ssmurphy — Thu, 30 May 2013 17:22:39 +0000

Thanks so much for your kind words, friend.

And thanks again for the light fixtures! I’m in the process of cleaning them now.

Comment on Quilting: The Opposite of Instant Gratification by Lornie

Lornie — Sat, 25 May 2013 17:27:34 +0000

Hi Seana…. Some part of the $80 expenditure still exists as tools and materials that can be applied to the next project. The next (handmade) project will be cheaper, easier, faster (but just as meditatively relaxing), and better than the previous one. The meditation is priceless, as are your throw pillows.

Love you lots…. Lornie

Comment on Girl Power: Why are women bad at everything? by ssmurphy

ssmurphy — Fri, 24 May 2013 18:53:20 +0000

I don’t think sexism cheapens your life as a man at all. Or a woman’s for that matter. It is just important to me that men and women recognize that there is a societal difference placed upon us. I do appreciate your empathy and I do not assume all men are arrogant. I love defending my points, obviously, and I just hate when people try to claim that there is no gender disparity in the workplace.

All of our articles here are presented with humor (see “Peeing with Strangers”) though it may not always come across that way. I feel my angry feminist rant is less likely to fall on deaf ears if I poke fun, though maybe not. I do like to back up my outrageous claims with articles so people can see how I am formulating my opinions.

I was not being sarcastic when I said I appreciated your time and interest. I love when people comment on my posts, especially if they do not wholly agree with me. Like I said, you bring up some interesting points and my intention is to spark open discussion. If not, I would have simply not approved your comment. Thank you again for your interest and I hope you keep reading!

Comment on Girl Power: Why are women bad at everything? by Like

Like — Fri, 24 May 2013 18:34:42 +0000

Forgive me, my intention was not to nit-pick, and it wasn’t to be contrary for no reason. I just found the article interesting, but where it seems to fail, and where, for me atleast, feminism seems to fall on deaf ears is when it comes to making points about small things like cocky and pussy foot, and then tries to tie them to statistics on wage gaps. I understand how it can be very personal. After all, I’m not a woman, but the very fact that sexism exist also cheapens my life as a man. Sexism cheapens us both, and we are both affected by it, though obviously not on the same level at all. Please dont assume that just cause im a man that cant empathize and im arrogant.I really only wanted to make you think as you made me think.

Comment on Girl Power: Why are women bad at everything? by ssmurphy

ssmurphy — Fri, 24 May 2013 17:41:52 +0000

I wouldn’t say you are being disillusioned and sexist. I would say cocky and sexist. When I say “cocky” I don’t only mean those business men in suits. I mean many men. Men like you who argue with women about their experiences as women. For some reason you felt the need to argue with many of my minute points though I really am not sure if you disagree with my arguments as a whole. I’m not even saying being cocky is bad. Maybe cocky is not the right word – confident. This is what women should exercise, not what men should suppress.

And I’m sorry but “fairer” sex is just a bullshit offensive term. It pretends to praise women when it is really just putting us down. It implies that we are more gentle, unlike our male shark counterparts.

Again, my whole point is for especially men to recognize this problem. I am saying that by men like you, trying to brush it under the rug, are making it worse by doing so.

I do not mean to be a bitch but if you give me some shit, I assuming you expect some back, right?

In any case, I truly appreciate your time and interest in my article. You brought up some good points and interesting links.

Comment on Girl Power: Why are women bad at everything? by ssmurphy

ssmurphy — Fri, 24 May 2013 17:23:31 +0000

I’m not trying to prove or disprove anything. And I thought it was not possible to disprove a theory, only prove it. In any case, I am curious, if the reasons are not genetic and not societal or cultural, then what else could they be?

Interesting article, obviously there is a lot more to learn about this myth. Besides, it exactly supports my opinion. Women are told they are worse at math then men, so they do not do as well and do not pursue related professions (as much as men). This is precisely the problem.